There is nothing more powerful than the human soul on fire May 17 2013
Here is my story and why I think you're going to appreciate coming to my store.
I was born in 1969, in Brisbane, Australia, the 3rd daughter and child. My father was an abusive alcoholic and we were very poor. My father left my mother for another woman when I was about 8. We rarely saw him after that. My mother then had to work 3 jobs to support us, we often did not have hot water or electricity as the bills were hard for my mum to pay. We would often shop-lift bread and cheese so we could eat. Life was hard, but we had love, my eldest sisters both ended up with mental health diseases from the horrific abuse our dad perpetrated upon us. Somehow, my mental health survived.
Fast forward to my 21st year of life, my hardworking and simple-living mother was diagnosed with advanced cervical cancer and died within 6 months. I thought my world had died with her. I had always wanted to be a radio announcer, but after her death, I decided I wanted to “make a difference” and help people, so applied to become a police officer.
I travelled to some remote parts of Queensland in my policing role, all the while completing my degree and masters, part-time external (over 9 years). I married in 1999 and had two children, one in 2000 and another in 2003.
My life changed dramatically when I decided to raise my sister's four children 10 years ago (when my baby was 3 months old). It was not an easy decision let me tell you, I felt I had to adopt my nieces and nephews. My husband at the time also felt it was the right thing to do, so we took the plunge together, thinking that love could mend their broken hearts and spirits.
Bringing up six children, instead of just our own two, has not been easy, our goals for our future changed overnight and so to our dreams. Our house wasn’t big enough, friends stopped inviting us to their places (due to shear numbers). Life turned into a boot camp of routine and regime of eating, bathing, homework, sport, sleep and never ending cleaning up!
I have always tried to make the best out of what life gave you, I expected a lot from my husband, to be more like me, in the end, we split up 6 years ago. The hard going of everyday was not the life for him. Many people told me that I couldn’t raise 6 kids by myself, that I would have to “give them back”! To those people I would like to say “thank you”, all I need is for someone to tell me I can’t, to prove that I can.
These youngsters had faced some huge challenges in their short lives. After their father had been imprisoned and their mother, who was using drugs and alcohol and had been diagnosed with a mental illness disappeared, that is when the children came to live with me. Two of the children also have been diagnosed with an Autistic Spectrum Disorder with my own child having an intellectual impairment requiring fortnightly speech therapy for 8 years.
My goal when I joined the police was to be the first female Queensland Police Commissioner, however since 2007 I have worked part-time, which enables me to be there for the kids before and after school, take them to their sport and medical appointments, do the grocery shopping, pay bills and get some “me time”. My goals have yet again changed, the Police Commissioner goal seems so foreign to me now, every once in a while I mourn for my old hopes and dreams, but then I see how much more fulfilling my life has become, what a fabulous person I have turned into, how proud I am of myself.
I think the only thing that has kept me sane is exercise. I remember when my husband and I separated, I did many of a friend’s boxing classes and cried the whole class, the sweat and tears helped heal my heart. These days, I make exercise a priority, I manage to do weights twice a week (always no matter what) and cardio 3-4 times a week. I have an old daggy treadmill at home which helps me in this endeavour, sometimes I do a circuit in my yard.
I am so very lucky to have beautiful friends who support me and an ever-faithful boyfriend who rounds my life off perfectly.
I am a strong advocate for women and their rights and my police-job focuses on domestic violence prevention and dealing directly with victims of domestic violence.
For the last 10 or so years I have had chronic back pain stemming from degenerative disc disease, requiring anaesthetic and steroid injections often, but not as often these days. My weights regime help keep my back strong, but I suffer from sciatic pain most days.
In 2011 I thought I was going to meet my god, I suffered from chronic pancreatitis, coupled with a twisted stomach (requiring surgery).
In recent months I have been diagnosed with a thyroid condition which makes me tired and feeling unwell most days. I will not have a dodgy-thyroid dictate a weight-gain (or loss), so I keep plodding along, eating very well, eating no white sugar, flour, gluten or alcohol. I exercise even when I would much rather sleep.
This site is not just for me to flog off the beautiful G-Loves. G-Loves are designed by a woman, not dissimilar to me, who wants to empower women, she is just doing it through gloves. I want this site to be a place where we can learn from each other, encourage each other, empower each other, dream big, complain little. A place where I can inspire you to be the best you can be.
There is nothing more powerful, than the human soul on fire